Thursday, November 5, 2009

Get control people

Yesterday Lil' Man had the melt down of all melt down's.  Hubby went to the school to try and get him under control. He was threatening  to throw a chair at his pregnant teacher when the hubby walked into the room.  All because he wanted to be the door holder, and today was not his day.

It kind of makes me laugh, because he's four, and is on the short side for his age. So I don't understand why they cant control him.  I mean don't stand there and watch him attempt to throw a chair.  Do something about it.

I have requested an IEP meeting, just waiting for a date and time.  For their sake I hope its sooner rather than later.

Every morning we go over the rules of the classroom.  Lil' Man recites them like a pro.  I tell him how much of a good boy he is.  I remind him how happy it makes me when he listens nicely with his ears.  Maybe I am hyping it up too much? Setting him up for failure?

We've tired sticker charts, we've tried times outs, we've tired taking away toys, and privilege's, but those things don't work for an FAS kid.  When he's in a rage, he doesn't care.  You have to deescalate it before it gets to the point of a rage.

He's doing fine at home, and also at daycare (where he previously was off the hook).  We've got to figure something out soon.


  1. I am the Behavior Specialist for our local school district and deal with this stuff all the time. The school needs to get a behavior intervention plan in place. It should be positive and reward GOOD behavior. Suggest that they break the day into halves or even quaters. Target a behavior such as: following directions and then reinforce that behavior when he is doing it. Find something that is highly desired that he will work for, like a favorite toy, or a piece of candy and reward him if he has followed directions according to how they break the day up. Does this make sense? It's all about motivating him to do what we want him to do. Hope that helps. Let me know if you have questions. Good Luck.

  2. I don't have any advice, but I think Katie's suggestion is great!!

  3. From looking at Dee Dee's charts and records, I think she was like this before. The school actually called crisis intervention had her admitted in an in patient treatment center for a week and she came out of that a much better kid. Yes, she still has issues, but she is no longer a saftey threat for herself and others. Maybe an inpatient treatment time might work for him!??! WHo knows, but I do know I used to be against stuff like that, but to see the before and after reports from her teachers and stuff made me think that it can work!!
    Anyways... I hope you guys get it worked out. It sounds like you and the daycare are doing a good job, so what your doing needs to be echoed at school! :o)

  4. Thanks for all the advice. When he is in one of his "moods" there is no reasonining with him." We've tired ignoring the negative, and praising the positive. I am going to ask about a Behavior plan.

    Thanks again ladies.