Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Too smart

Last night after I was finished rocking my Lil’Man and telling him his life story.  I asked him did you like B, and D? (adoptive parents).  He said “yes, they are nice”.  I said oh that’s good.  To which he replied “they are my adoptive family aren’t they?”

He’s too freaking smart! While he knew he would one day get adopted, we never mentioned them being his adoptive parents.  I wanted to make sure everything was set in stone.

Does anyone have any tips/advice on how to help Lil’ Man transition.  Every night I talk about his birth, his birth family, his other foster family, and us. Then I go on to tell him that one day soon he is going to get adopted and live with that family forever.

I usually end it by saying how much the hubby and I will miss him, but that he will remain in our hearts forever.

I think about how hard this transition is for me, I can’t even begin to understand how hard it is for my Lil’ Man.  I hope we are doing the right thing.  I hope this isn't something I am going to regret.


  1. I think it is a good idea to tell him the truth and the whole story from birth to now in order. I am thinking of you during this transition. I know how hard it can be... questioning your decisions and feeling... it can be hard.

  2. I hope that you can remain in his life in some way after he moves.. but even if you can't, I know that you have worked on his Lifebook and he will know that you loved him. I encourage you to enclude a note telling him about the bedtime ritual you have - he'll love to hear about it when he is older.