Monday, December 21, 2009

Worth it in the end

Parenting a child with fetal alcohol syndrome is hard work.  My hat is off  to adoptive parents, who are doing this 24/7! Parenting Lil' Man has put a lot of strain and stress on us.

What works today might not work tomorrow.  We've been seeing a lot of lying and "stealing" lately.  Along with down right defiant behaviors followed by "oops it was an accident." "accidents happen Mom."  When you spit in my face dear child it is NOT accident.

When I am feeling stressed I try to take a step back, and look at the big picture.  Lil' Man as came a LONG LONG way in the passed seven months.

Socially he has gone from the age of a young two year old, to an older three almost four year old.

He no longer wears pull-ups to bed.

He plays with all toys now, not just his matchbox cars.

He no longer needs assistance getting dressed.

He can be trusted out of eye sight for a few minutes at a time, if he's in the right mood. 

He cleans up after himself, asks to be excused from the table, says "yes Mam, and no Sir.

He now knows his numbers, colors, shapes, and letters.

He can spell his name, and almost write it too!

His rages have almost stopped. 

He no longer makes strange noises or uses baby talk.

He has come a long way.  Slowly but surely all of this hard work, and stress is paying off.  At the end of the day he is totally worth of the stress.  After all he didnt ask for any of this.


  1. It is worth you are so very right! Hopefully his adoptive family will see that too.