Lil' Man has been a total joy since he came home Sunday. He has been sleeping from 7:30pm-7am, waking up in a good mood. Getting dressed without a problem, listing a following directions in school. Eating his meals, using his manners and being a little love bug. I am not sure what happened over the weekend, but I hope it sticks.
He is like a totally different kid.
I picked Lil' Man up this afternoon. He was excited to see me! He was asleep within 5 minutes of being in the car. He has a few "pick" marks where he has been picking out of fear and anxiety.
He is very confused (rightfully so) over the whole transition thing. After he woke from his nap, he said he was sad because he missed S (adoptive mom). In the next sentence he told me he didnt want to go back to their house, because he spent too much time in time out.
About 20 minutes later he asked me if I could take him back to S house, because he wanted to play. I reminded him that he would be going back on Friday for the weekend. He said "I don't want to go there I want to live with you and Wayne."
He then asked where we were going for summer vacation. I reminded him "when its summer time you will be living with S and P, your adoptive family."
Things are still going according to plan. He will spend next weekend with them. After the second visit we will have a meeting to decided weather the third weekend will be a visit or the day he is placed.
One thing is for sure I am going to miss that lil' guy.
I just got off the phone with Lil' Mans adoptive Mom. She is exhausted. Lil' Man got up just after 1am, and did not go back to sleep. When my boy doesn't even enough sleep his behaviors are 1,000 times more severe!
He's testing the waters to see what he can get away with.
He had several "accidents", which is unusual for him, but it's something he has control over.
She was able to get him to nap. After nap they ventured to the park. Lil' Man went to the sandbox, and tired to eat another kids ice cream out of their hand. When the adoptive Mom, tired to talk to him he lost it.
She said he told her that he misses us, but they have a lot more toys (their house is about 3X the size of ours) so he wants to stay!
I hope and pray they dont change their mind.
Lil' Man has been gone for twenty four hours. To wake up on my own was a rather strange feeling. Not having to walk on egg shells in the morning tell felt great, but I miss the little bugger.
I know he is having a great time. I wonder how he slept last night. I wonder what he doing right now.
When I was packing his suitcase I asked him what toys he wanted to take he said "none." He said "keep them safe for me because i'm coming back here".
He doesn't have much concept of time, so he's a little confused about the weekend visits, and the forever family thing.
The adoptive Mom said she would call me tonight, once he was in bed. I can't wait for an update.
Last night I lay in bed. My heart was pounding, I couldn't sleep. I haven't slept well in weeks. Lil' Man hasn't sleep through the night in weeks.
Him waking up 1,000 time a night, has started to cause me anxiety. I lay in bed waiting for him to wake up, because I know its going to happen.
He usually wakes up, and comes barging into my room with some type of complaint. He wants a tattoo, he needs to be covered up. He wants a new night light, he needs the bathroom (but refuses to go unless I get up). and so on and so.
This happens two or three time a night. Typically around 2am-5am.
It isnt the lack of sleep , thats causes the anxiety. It's knowing what I am going to have to deal with in the morning when the kid is too tired to get up.
If my boy doesn't get a good 12 hours of sleep. FORGET about it. His day is ruined until he naps.
So this weekend while Lil' Man is bonding with his adoptive family. I will be looking forward to a full nights sleep. I might even sleep in till 8am
GASP
Lil' Man is leaving on Thursday for his first weekend visit with his adoptive family. He will go the following weekend as well. After the second visit there will be a meeting to decided if the third weekend will be a visit, or placement.
I am excited for him!
