Things are so so here. His behaviors have greatly improved at home, but he continues to rule the daycare. They have called me everyday this week about his behaviors. Today I had to pick him up.
My boss is getting tired of me taking off work because of his behaviors. I already miss so much work because of his weekly appointments, foster care training, etc.
This crap wears you down. I dont know how people do this forever. I guess I had a different view of what foster care would be like. I love this lil guy, but I dont always enjoy being around him.
You would not be the first foster parents to have to request a child to move because of behavior OUTSIDE the home. Children can often hold it together when they are at home, with primary caregivers, and with security. But school/daycare is sometimes just too overstimulating - and because their are often so many caregivers and so many children - the child just can not feel safe and thus acts out. If it is at all possible for him to be in a smaller setting with fewer kids, he may do much better. Either way, I'm praying for you all - I know you love your lil man.
ReplyDeleteI'm a fellow foster mama. I've had kids removed. We'd only had them a week when I made the decision and it was heartbreaking. I think I'm still dealing with all the crap it created in me, so I totally get you. I totally get you.
ReplyDeleteIt's tough. I don't know what will work for you or lil' man, but have heart. You're not alone.
my 4 year old boy made me feel the same way. i was so relieve when he left, he just didn't fit with our family but he went to an adoptive home where he did fit, so I was happy for him.
ReplyDeletei always am so impressed by how you have done with him. you have given him the BEST you can and I hope you still have more to give, but if you don't that is ok too.